Stay Positive In Negative Situations

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Dear blog and friends,

Today, I am going to write in English, for I want to improve my English writing skills. When talking to a friend, they will hardly corrected your mistakes. Maybe because you speak too fast while gossiping or something kan, or maybe they dont have guts to do that. Haha, actually the main reason I am writing in english today is because i just want to share something from what I read, and most of them are written in english. So, its easier for me to just copy and paste what's written in the article, rather than translating every single things to bahasa melayu.

It's easy for everyone to be positive whenever they are in positive situations, living with positive people. But, what can you do to stay positive even when you had to face negative situations? Ok, so these are the tips for you!

1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.

2. Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.

3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.

4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”

"Surely with difficulty is ease.
With difficulty is surely ease."
(Al-Inshirah : 5 - 6)

5. Look at the content of what people say to you for something positive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.

6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.

7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.

8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.

9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.

10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”

11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.

IKIM.fm is a good choice for you, instead of you keep on listening to heartbreaking, sad love songs. hehe.

12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.

Yes, I talked to a positive friend of mine, and I got some inspiring words and advice. Really thank u soo much :)

13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.

e.g.

Never allow obstacles to stop you. Confront and transform them to opportunities.

One of petua awet muda is to stay positive. Then only, you'll look younger than your age :)

14. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.

15. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

I read these tips from here :)

Try to forgive everyone, and keep praying may ALLAH lead them with hidayah and taufiq.

"And whoever is patient and forgiving, these most surely are actions due to courage."
(Ash-Shuraa : 43)

Last, but not least,

True positive thinking is not just saying that everything will be okay, while at the same time we still think about failure. In order to bring beneficial changes and improvement into our life, positive thinking has to become our predominant mental attitude throughout the day. It has to turn into a way of life.

I am Positive, how about you? :)